20 Things To Do Before I Die

Smithsonian Magazine Grand Prize Winner By Jia Han Dong

Over drinks last week, we watched the final performances of Johnny Cash on YouTube, and I sobbed in fear knowing the messages he crooned would affect our family one day. Last night I read Smithsonian, June 2012, “The Multiverse of Love,” about Roseanne Cash. Apparently, she is one “of the most gifted singer-songwriters of our time.

Her songs, according to the article, are “doomy, painfully romantic, intense and dark.” I thought about Johnny Cash who knew his days were numbered when he sang his heart true to meet his maker.

Was he satisfied with his life’s achievements? Would you be?

I have so much to do, and I challenge you to carry this series forward. Write a list of 20 things you still want to accomplish before you leave this world and stamp them on the blogosphere as part of your legacy. I have a hunch why this inspiration (which can be positive or not) hit me, and I’m going to make an indelible mark right here.

In no particular order of import, here are the 20 things I want to do before I die:

1. Learn Spanish

2. Become a glass blower

3. Write my book on the gem markets of the world (I’ve been to many) and one on how to buy colored stones

4. Earn enough income to put my daughter through a Bachelor’s degree

5. Hold my grandchild

6. Play the piano

7. Be a gemologist

8. Find true love via a soul mate

9. Endow a foundation in memory of my sister, Tracey S. Soulati, MD, who died at 36-years-old from rare cancer

10. Attend four grand slam tennis tournaments

11. Travel to Brazil and shop for tourmalines

12. Zipline in Costa Rica above the canopy

13. Rent and RV and drive to the Grand Canyon with my daughter and sisters’ kids

14. Buy a comfortable mountain home with satellite access that could be where I retire, if ever I do

15. Never say good bye to my parents

16.Rid the world of child abusers, child molesters, rapists, abusers of women and drug-addicted moms

17. Travel the world with my daughter

18. Take a Mediterranean cruise

19. Pay off my debt and stay that way

20. Stay healthy enough to pass peacefully without disease or need for costly medical care and without burden to my family

Who’s got a list?

73 comments
Soulati | Hybrid PR
Soulati | Hybrid PR moderator

How fitting you found me and this post, Portia, to honor my sister's short life and to show how fleeting our lives with so much to accomplish in numbered days. I applaud you for your achievements; Tracey would be so proud and on her behalf I send you her hug and smile knowing you have overcome.

Hug your babies every day no matter how big and old they get. Every July I bring Tracey's two boys to me to visit and see their grandparents. We watch the eldest who is so much his mother.

Thank you for sharing. I know.

PortiaDanley
PortiaDanley

OMG, I'M SO CRUSHED TO READ NO. 9! TRACEY WAS MY OB GYN. I WAS HER FIRST PT TO HAVE THE HONOR OF HER GOING THROUGH MY ENTIRE PREGNANCY ALTHOUGH SHE'D DELIVERED MANY BABIES BEFORE MINE. SHE WAS SO CALM & HELPFUL BEING THAT I WAS ONLY SIXTEEN. I'VE BEEN SEARCHING FOR HER FOR YRS SINCE I RETURNED TO CA FROM IL FIFTEEN YRS AGO. SHE WOULD BE PROUD TO KNOW THAT HER FIRST BABY IS NOW A HIGH SCHOOL GRADUATE ON HER WAY TO COLLEGE & I AM NOW A NURSE RETURNING TO SCHOOL THIS FALL TO OBTAIN MY BSN. MY CONDOLENCES TO YOUR FAMILY. I AM AT A LOSS FOR WORDS TRYING NOT TO SHED TEARS. SUCH A BEAUTIFUL SPIRIT, GONE TOO SOON. BE BLESSED.

Late_Bloomers
Late_Bloomers

Amazing, Jayme, what you have ignited, you really have lit a torch and now it goes around the world.

 

Lovely to know that you are into gems, I am about to have a ring made set with a turmaline, what a coincidence.

 

Latest blog post: 12 Things I Want To Do

Soulati | Hybrid PR
Soulati | Hybrid PR moderator

This has got to be one of the most rewarding blog posts of all time (next to "let's define PR which also went global for various reasons). 

 

Thanks, everyone for taking up the torch and pushing it onward. It's amazing to "see you" all. I'm a proud mama blogger. 

Latest blog post: Blogger, Twitter, Triberr

michandwalker
michandwalker

Love this!! You really have m thinking and composing MY list! Thx

Billy_Delaney
Billy_Delaney

A list of sorts:

 

Record, via video, my life for my kids.

Using a by the decade format, put together a collage of the things that I did, didn't do and wish I had done.

The places, people and things that I saw, met and engaged in. Read them my poetry. Sing them my songs. Tell them my favorite jokes. Let them see the man their Father became.

 

Got into blue water in a 20ft Flicka sailboat: it has been around the world, is a trusty vessel and much admired by any real blue water sailor. I've harboured this wish for a long time. Maybe in my 60's I will get to do it. Count on it too!

 

Visit France again. Ride the trains and just look at the scenery. Sit still on a street corner all day and watch the people. Travel along the Canal Midi. Major waterway down the middle of the country that gives you a view not often seen.  Visit the museum of the French Foreign Legion. Visit Alpe D'huez and be amazed at that climb for a cyclist.

Speaking only French and blending into a culture I am keenly associated with as an Irish Gaul.

 

Take Amtrack across the country with my wife and let her see the whole shebang from the comfort of a private cabin. All the while just talkin' and resting and reminiscing and thinking as the land rolls bye. Go from Chicago to Portland, down to L.A. tthen back to Chicago. Then down to Louisiana and across to Jacksonville Fla and up to New York.  The home via Cleveland. Takes about a month to do right. That would be sweet.

 

Note:

I have lived in Africa, Europe and North America. so a lot of things are already done. I've been to many countries, sailed upon many waters, and visited and tasted many cultures. These things on this list are my biggies. I do have others, but they are for another day...

 

 

Billy_Delaney
Billy_Delaney

O.K. Jayme.

I'll post it in a little bit.

 

Billy_Delaney
Billy_Delaney

Ah! Now I see you. I hope you fill all the list with 'job done' and then some. Billy

BucketListJrny
BucketListJrny

Love #2, learning to blow glass is on my bucket list!

New England Multimedia
New England Multimedia

I can't bring myself to comment on this today, with what's happened in Aurora, Colorado. It feels irreverent, yet I realize that our "Bucket Lists" are even more relevant in moments like this.

 

I'm thinking about all those lives cut short in the blink of an eye.

 

Young people in general believe they have all the time in the world. Those of us who've lived long enough to realize that every moment is a gift to be cherished are privileged to have been given that awareness. Know what I mean? 

My #1 Bucket List item changed today, from living on the road in an RV to simply appreciating this moment, right here, right now. Just being grateful for life, and not taking it for granted.

mikepoynton
mikepoynton

I can help you with #'s 1 and 12, Jayme! ¡Pura vida!

3HatsComm
3HatsComm

Much of my list would run way too personal, but yeah - there are so many things I'd like to do. And it's interesting seeing everyone's similar interests. FWIW, but a few of mine:

 

- French would be my language of choice - because I'd love to live in France, or at least vacation in Paris for a month. I want the time to truly appreciate that city.

- Have some F&F Jonesing for an Alaskan cruise but I'm with you on wanting the Med, including Greek isles.

- Some sporting events are on my 'lottery' list - The Kentucky Derby; not into horse racing but it's the event itself that'd be a cool experience.

- Wine country. Make enough $$ to visit some great wine regions all over the world. South Africa would be the bomb.

- Become a better cook. It's all about time and the tools and the talent; still want to develop this skill.

- Learn. More about art and literature and history and all the things I still don't know. Which is basically everything.

Hajra
Hajra

Nice! My list will run way too long. I think beyond a hundred. I found a few things touching in your list, like never having to say good bye to parents. Tough. Some things in life are just too much to accept. 

 

Here's some tidbits from my list : write a book that becomes such a huge success that I never have to do anything again (more like a dream actually); travel the world, learn at least four languages (besides the three I actually know!)

Soulati | Hybrid PR
Soulati | Hybrid PR moderator

In honor of my sister and on her behalf, Portia, I applaud you and send you the love she would had she been on this plane to receive you. What a fitting comment for this post; to know that life is fleeting and the days we have to accomplish what you have in the face of adversity are numbered.

Timely you've found me to learn this news. We said so long seven years ago in October. In July each year, I bring her kids -- two boys-- to stay with me and see their grandparents. They are with me now, and your sorrow is ours as we watch the eldest boy who is so much his mother.

Even after this long, I, too, shed wayward tears; it's so hard not to when you remember a loved one lost. Kiss your babies every day no matter how old and big they get to be. Thank you, Portia. Much warmth to you.

Mark_Harai
Mark_Harai

 @Billy_Delaney Ah, a world-traveled season business mind; things should get very interesting once you get your platform established - you have lots of valuable experience and insights to share with the community : )

 

Cheers Billy!

Soulati | Hybrid PR
Soulati | Hybrid PR moderator

 @BucketListJrny Wait, your ID is actually Bucket List Journey??? That's amazing. You're gonna have so much fun traversing this series! We have one over @C_Pappas and now over @susansilver I hope you share your post here, too, and thanks for stopping in!

Soulati | Hybrid PR
Soulati | Hybrid PR moderator

 @New England Multimedia  Thank you for acknowledging Aurora, Michelle. We all need to be grateful for our life and do better than the best we can to make every moment count. 

Mark_Harai
Mark_Harai

 @New England Multimedia  I. Love. This.

 

"My #1 Bucket List item changed today, from living on the road in an RV to simply appreciating this moment, right here, right now. Just being grateful for life, and not taking it for granted."

 

I. Am. In.

Soulati | Hybrid PR
Soulati | Hybrid PR moderator

 @mikepoynton Hey, You! I accept! Now where have you been? Busy, I hope and G plussing all over for you hotel client! I looked into coming down with books from library and all. Decided my kidlet just needs to be a tad older to accomplish that gorgeous country of yours.

 

Lovely seeing you, Mike! Thanks!

Soulati | Hybrid PR
Soulati | Hybrid PR moderator

 @3HatsComm I love your partial list here; Wine in South Africa? I didn't know! You'd need to head directly on over to Australia, too! Thanks for sharing, Davina!

Soulati | Hybrid PR
Soulati | Hybrid PR moderator

 @Hajra  Hey, Hajra...I can speak conversational Farsi and German; I minored in German in college, but all that literature translation has easily been forgotten. My Farsi is still third-grade level reading and writing, but I get by easily enough. Rusty for sure. 

 

P.S. This reply is in reference to your note over @C_Pappas ; thought I'd combine them!!  Thanks for sharing some thoughts...I still challenge you to take up the series at your house; heck, you can stamp your legacy with a longer list!

Billy_Delaney
Billy_Delaney

 @Mark_Harai Thanks Mark, You are one of my online standards to follow. So, I've a lot to live up to and emulate. The platform is coming... from an honest and truthful place that I live in. Billy

Hajra
Hajra

 @Soulati | B2B Social Media Marketing  @C_Pappas I will definitely put this in the pipeline. As it is I am planning to post very regularly over at my blog; this might help me fill in the space! :)

 

Farsi is one language that interests me; and if I get a chance, I might learn it. I know English, Hindi and Urdu. I can read, write and speak Arabic; but I can't understand it! Maybe a few words and sentences here and there; but still not fluent at it! 

Mark_Harai
Mark_Harai

 @Billy_Delaney One of the keys is your starting point... I like where you live and so do consumers who will spend their hard earned money for results you can get them.

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